Valentine's Day vs Independent

So yesterday was Valentine's day. Some of us may be singles, others have a date and some of us are attached/married. Today i to talk a little about being single and looking for a partner.

It's common for the singles, both guys and ladies to go for social event meant for the singles. And while we go to such event, we go there with certain expectations. The guy must be rich, handsome and young etc.. The ladies have good figure, long hair etc. While we have the ''ideal/perfect'' partner in mind, does he/she ever exists?

I'm sorry but No! Be it, in the past, present or future there will never be a perfect couple don't even say the perfect relationship. I speak from experience. I used to write down the criteria of my ideal partner. But guess what, she never exists. Now that i know she doesn't exists, am i still hanging on to my fantasy? No!

Rather, i trust Him to provide and bring the girl when the time is right. So what do i do in the meantime? I go and enrich and equip myself. I do not desperately go and ask around if there is any ladies that is willing to go out with me.

Here's the truth, tested and proven: Trust Him in all your ways. Commit your plans to Him. Jenny is the perfect example. She came from Him.

Our 1st anniversary

To her, i want to say:

There will never be another one like you. When i thought i will surely be single all my life, God allowed me to meet you. And though there was disagreements, silly arguments, i thank God we're still here and together. None of us are perfect. But it is through our imperfectness, that we know each other better. And for that, i am grateful. Surely there are many good and pretty girls out there, i thank God for knowing Jenny. I guess there wouldn't be another one like you. This journey hasn't been easy but nonetheless, we're still here and will surely be.

Never Lose Heart

So 2015 is over and 2016 has just begun.

I'm not sure about you but 2015 has been a series of good and bad. And as the new year has began, as always, we have this practice of setting goals. It's something we do almost every beginning of the year. But while we're busy setting goals for this year, let us think: What if we failed to see the goals achieved? What is our respond when things didn't go as what we planned?

Friends, no matter what has happened in 2015, or what may be installed for 2016, never lose heart. Perhaps 2015 may not be a good or the best year for you, do not lose heart. I've been thinking and to a certain degree i do agree,'' things will always get better.'' That phase has been in my head for the last few weeks.

2016. Some of us may have great plans for 2016. We set goals to do this and that. We want to travel, get attached etc.. But while we're excited to see the plans come true, never lose your heart over these.



''Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that's where life starts.''

Dear Mockers

I just wanna make sure that i'm not not against anyone but rather concerned about what was spoken concerning me.

Dear Mockers or whatever you are. Do not think that being the eldest among the cousins gives you the right to make sarcastic comments.  Since you're eldest among us, shouldn't you be more mature in the words you speak? Moreover, you're also a mother of two. What will your boys think if they are aware of this?

Sure you can say whatever you like, but be reminded, that words are like labels. They stick on people. If you don't like to receive the same treatment, den be considerate and careful with your words.

Our 6th month

It's been quiet here, isn't it? Well guess, what? Our 6th month also happen to be our country's Golden Jubilee weekend. Yeah!! So together with some of our friends, we celebrated! But that's not the thing.

Few weeks before we approached our 6th month, one of our friend sent her a sacastic comment which read, ''Foster is your everything............''

Let's get this straight: I am, will not and can't be her everything.

Defination of everything seems very vague.

Just because you don't have dinner with her, can't meet her, then i am her everything.

Just so you know, i am not the air she breathe, her employer who pays her salary etc.

Please be tactful with your words. Your words do carry weight. Words are like labels.

Whether you know it or not, comments, opinions, remarks sticks.

100 reasons why i chose you

Today, we've been together for 100 days. And honestly, there was sunshine and storm, calm and waves. But those things that we have went through have only strengthen and deepen this relationship. What matters most is You. Today i wanna share the 100 reasons why i chose you:

1. Your loyalty to this relationship.
2. Your compassion for everyone around you.
3. Your selflessness.
4. Your integrity.
5. Your strength.
6. Your devotion.
7. How you are always 100% honest no matter what.
8. Your kindness.
9. The way you always try to help others.
10. How you always stand up for what you believe in.
11. Your generosity.
12. Your confidence.
13. The way that you always look for and find the positive in everything.
14. Your optimism.
15. The fact that you know exactly where you are going in life and will do whatever it takes to get there.
16. Your courage even in the face of adversity.
17. Your boldness.
18. Your gentleness with me.
19. How you are always understanding with me even when I don’t deserve it.
20. How much you and I share in common together about everything.
21. How you always can make me laugh or smile even at times when I don’t want to.
22. The perfume you put that attracts me.
23. The fact that you refuse to ever completely grow up.
24. Your crazy voices, sounds, and imitations.
25. How you are always kind to animals.
26. The fact that you aren’t afraid to cry.
27. How you always help me when I need or ask you to and sometimes even when I don’t ask.
28. How you are always concerned about me and my well-being.
29. The way you hold my hands and arms.
30. The way you tidy up a room just by being in it.
31. How much you’ve taught me about life and myself.
32. Your intelligence.
33. The fact that you are good at fixing things or putting things together by hand.
34. Your zest for life.
35. Your unique style.
36. The way you talk, speak and communicate with people.
37. Your amazing voice.
38. Your awesome hair.
39. Your craziness.
40. Your incredible baby brown eyes.
41. Your strong hands.
42. Your love of life.
43. Your faith in God.
44. You make my heart race whenever i see you, talk to you.
45. The way you walk.
46. The way you talk
47. Your wackiness
48. The fact that there is nobody else in the world like you and nobody will ever come close.
49. Your vast knowledge about almost everything.
50. How you are always good at almost everything.
51. The annoying fact that you are right 90+% of the time.
52. The amazing new experiences that I’ve shared for the first time with you and only you.
53. The way you make me feel about myself.
54. How you always tell me and show me everyday how much you love me.
55. How you don’t mind holding my hand or showing me affection even in public.
56. How you sometimes give up things you’ve wanted just for my benefit.
57. The way you kiss me and touch me.
58. The fact that you were willing to take a chance on me.
59. The way you always encourage and believe in me.
60. Your faithfulness.
61. Your sense of humour.
62. The fact that you know how to make me be a real and better man.
63. The sweet food and gifts you’ve made and given to me.
64. The heart-touching things you’ve written for me.
65. The way you’ve opened up your heart and life to me.
66. The fact that I learn new amazing things about you almost everyday.
67. The way you look at me that makes me melt inside.
68. The love you’ve always shown me.
69. The way you always say awesome things about me to other people.
70. How much excitement you bring into my life almost everyday.
71. How you always bring out the best in me.
72. How you never take life for granted.
73. The way you always inspire, encourage me.
74. The fact that you are as much of a dreamer as me.
75. The fact that you are without a doubt my true soul mate.
76. The way that you know how to not take life too seriously and live to the fullest.
77. The fact that you are the first and only person I’ve ever loved and the first person who ever truly loved me.
78. How forgiving you are.
79. How you’re not afraid to be a risk-taker.
80. Your incredible big heart.
81. How you always know what to say and how to say things in any given situations.
82. How we hanged out together, discovering new places.
83. How you let me scare you when you least expect it.
84. The fact that I know you will be one of the most successful girl in the world someday because no one deserves it more than you.
85. The amazing way you always seem to be able to read my mind.
86. How we always still say or do the exact same thing at the same time.
87. Your extreme patience with me even when I push it to the limit sometimes.
88. Your beauty.
89. How you always lie on my shoulder in the bus/train and sometimes in cab.
90. How you always comfort me or give me a shoulder to cry on when I need it.
91. How I know you’ll always be here for me through good times and bad no matter what happens
92. The extraordinary amazing things that always happen to us that never happen to anyone else
93. The fact that I know you are my real true soul mate and we were destined to be together.
94. How respectful you are towards people.
95. How cute and adorable you can be. Especially your funny face!
96. Your determination and conviction and how once you set your mind on something that nobody can change it
97. Your incredible dreams and visions for our future that will come true.
98. How much you know about me now and that you’ve seen both my good, bad and ugly that you still love me anyway
99. All the sacrifices you make for me
100. Every little single detail about you that makes you who you are and the fact that you are the best woman in the world.

What does it takes?

Most humans are like me. We have dreams, things we always wanted to do, see and explore etc. Some of us want to be rich, wealthy, living in a big house, have a great number of friends etc. Yes it is said that dreams make humans great. But to have these require you to work hard for it.

Example:
1. Thomas Edison created the first light bulb. It was said that he tried more than 300 times to see the first light in a bulb.

2. Steve Jobs started Apple Inc, which is currently the No.1 multinational technology company. He did not finished his high school and was a drop out. But that didn't stop him from pursueing his dream.

3. Roger Bannister, who ran the first sub-four-minute mile. 

These guys and many more did what the world said it was impossible. 

Recently, i came to know someone who started saving up as he is struggling in his finances. So he started making plans, setting budgets on his daily meals. But as time goes by, he couldn't keep to his budget as he was attracted to other tibits, snacks before/after lunch.

For us to be successful,  we need the following:

1. Discipline
Keep to your budget. Only you can limit how you want to spent.

2. Consistancy
Be consistant to the amount you have budgetted.

3. Focus
Know your goals and dreams.

Temptations will always be there to tempt you, make your heart soft. But your will is stronger that all these!

Forgiveness: Why Forgive?

Yet another powerful message from Kong Hee.

What is forgiveness?

To forgive means 3 things.

1. To leave the hurt, bitterness, resentment, anger and all unpleasant feelings, thoughts behind.
I do not say that you take as if nothing happened. But whatever is happening right now, you make a decision to move on.

2. To move from prison to release.
Unforgiveness is like a prison. You will never move on if you are still unable to forgive the person/circumstances. Remember, that there is One who forgave you some 2000 years ago.

3. To let love fill your heart.
Fill your heart and mind positive things.


It always seems impossible until it's done. ~ Nelson Mandela

I'm sorry but thank You

To the One and Only, 

I am sorry for the not celebrating the kind of birthday you have wanted. I am sorry for the below standard cake that we used to celebrate your special day. I am sorry for disappointing, not respecting, and not seeing you as a special and precious one in my life.

Lastly, i just wanna say thank You for giving us another chance to get this relationship going again. I may not be the perfect guy, but i will prove that you have made the right decision to be my girlfriend. Together, we can and will make this relationship the best one you can ever ask for.

J & F First Month Report

Hi all.

as some/many have heard from me, that as of 9th Feb 2015, i am no longer single. Well today post is to update some of the highlights.

1. 14th Feb 2015, we celebrated our first Valentine's Day.
I brought her to Pastamania @ Funan IT Mall. That was where i first met her. Guess what? Though it was not a posh restaurant, yet we kind of enjoyed the simple lunch. We were also sitting at the same table and chair that we first had dinner together! After lunch, we went to Raffles City, and then went to Suntec City to meet a few of our friends. Well, a handful of them already knew the good news and we were kinda surprised to see them as they came forward to send their best wishes and congrats to us! Technologies really work!

2. 3rd March 2015, we celebrated her birthday.
Well, i admit the celebration was certainly way below average! I didn't prepare for this special day.
So what did i do? I just bought her a simple cake and sang a birthday song to her.
Jenny, i am sorry. I wish i could have time to buy a better cake and get you the dress you have told me as you like it.

3. 15th March 2015, 3-days Cold Wars.
I was really sick on that day. She called me at around 10.15pm but i didn't hear it. But when i called her later, she hadn't picked up. So things was not good till 18th March 2015. Finally she called but with much disappointment, frustration and anger. To the extent that she mentioned ''breakup.'' I was really fearful that that would be the end. But i pleaded for another chance. Later part of the day, we went to meet Calvin her CGL. It was there, where we got back the relationship on track.

A new beginning

As of 9th February 2015, i am no longer single!! And some of you may have know who is the lucky one, but for the benefit of the rest, today i wanna introduce Jenny to you.

I came to know Jenny since Dec 2013. Jefri was the one who invited me into this chat group who is really more happening than any other chat group. So when did it started? I started to have feelings for her since the first time i walked her home. Looking back at the past year, we understood each other better. It was last Friday that we kind of confirmed that we have mutual feelings for each other. And yes, it was very mind blowing when we shared with each other.

We went to meet her CGL, Pastor Yilun on Saturday after service. She prayed and blessed this relationship. We went to have dinner with my CG and she also joined us @  Legoland. Technically, that was our first overseas outing. Oh yeah!! While on the way home, she asked me two questions which really set me thinking.

So i decided to pop the important question on Monday night after our guitar lesson. I felt that question was the answer she was looking for. That's why she could readily say yes.

So here's the thing: Relationship is meant to be serious and set things right.

Principle 原则

Principle

Definitions of principle: a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behavior or for a chain of reasoning, a fundamental source or basis of something.

原则

	意向	intention, intent, character, disposition, function, principle

Context: No matter whom you are or whether you know it or not, words carry weight. When your friend is hospitalized, you mentioned you will arrange to visit but end up did not turn up even after your friend has discharged. There was another who did not mentioned of visiting, yet he came and visit.

So what am I trying to say? I know you may be busy with things, so I wouldn't ask you to visit. Rather than telling me you will visit, I rather you speak words of encouragement etc. Don't say you be arranging and yet none came.

In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.

Let me get this right

Yet another opportunity to have a great conversation with a old friend who was telling some issues he was facing for about 4 years. I think i can identify with him as i kind of went through what he experienced. So you might be wondering,'' what's going on?'' Well i am glad you ask. Haha

For the past 4 fours, he has been working really late. I mean like working Monday to Friday from 9am to 9pm or even 10pm. That's not the problem. Inasmuch you have your life to live, so does my friend. As far as i know, the company did not employ you to tai-chi. Let me get this right, my friend here is not a slave to anyone, not even this company. I speaking to what you have been doing. Pls get this right, that my friend who is also your colleague is and has been helping you for the past 4 years that he is knocking off at 9/10pm. Pls get this right: His working hours is from 9am to 6pm. As far as i know, he is definitely not shirking responsibility or whatsoever. Likewise he doesn't work for you. He work for the Company which employed him. So get this straight and right.

Let me get this straight

I have been thinking about two sentences spoken regarding me some weeks back. Some weeks back, i made a mistakes and caused a little inconvenience to my ex-manager. Later that week, his colleague who is also from CHC came to know of it and together they said some nasty and sarcastic remarks. 

Here's my reply to them: So you think you're smart because of your achievement in your studies? You think you have authority/power because you're a manager? Good luck. But before you make any opinion or comments or jump to conclusion, may I suggest that check and double confirm the evidence you have are from the reliable source. What you think, feel and see may not match with what's going on.

For as long as you're breathing, all of us are sure to make mistakes, whether you know it or not. Complaining/grumbling/scolding vulgarities won't solve the problem. Stop complaining. 

 

What is your purpose?

Just recently, i was hanging out with a bunch of guys at Hong Kong cafe. And while we were chatting away, there was this guy who from the time we sat down kept introducing aka ''advertisting'' his female friends which he claimed is single and looking for a partner to us. Was pretty disturbed by what he was doing. So i asked him,'' Is your purpose of joining this group? Is it for yourself, your desires, your needs only? He didn't answered. So i continue to ask,'' Are your friends really desperately having the urge for the merge? I know we all want to be attached and find a lifelong partner. But is your whole life revolving around your needs and desires only? If every guy is like this, where would the world be? The world is not just made up of just one type of guy. I know we have our own needs, desires, but the moment you and i came into this Earth, we are no longer alone. But even they are having the urge for the merge, are you close enough to help them? I'm trying to sow discord here but the fact still remains, it's their personal issue. Whether you know it or not, they have to deal or resolve it by themselves. I know you wanna help, but it seems like you have take things into your own hands.

Here's what i wanna say: Familiarity breeds contempt.

Thoughts

Well i know, it's been more than a month since i came back here. Well in fact, i have been thinking about some things on mind and in heart. I got a lot to share but this verse kinda summed up my thoughts.

 1-3 Do you see what this means—all these pioneers who blazed the way, all these veterans cheering us on? It means we’d better get on with it. Strip down, start running—and never quit! No extra spiritual fat, no parasitic sins. Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it. Because he never lost sight of where he was headed—that exhilarating finish in and with God—he could put up with anything along the way: Cross, shame, whatever. And now he’s there, in the place of honor, right alongside God. When you find yourselves flagging in your faith, go over that story again, item by item, that long litany of hostility he plowed through.That will shoot adrenaline into your souls!

We saw the 6 accused standing on court in the entire month of August. So you might ask what/how does the above verse relate or link with the 6?

1.The 6 never quit when they began or started this church some 25 years ago.
2. They never lost sight of where they were going, therefore they, together with Him could put up with anything along the way which is the process and the journey to build this and the many churches around Asia.
3. And though we're not in the place of honor, yet we're right alongside with God.

To all who read this, ask yourself:
1. Where are you going in life? Have you lost sight of where you are going?
2. Are you giving up or losing sight? Do you have the character to put up with anything along the way?
3. Which is more important to you? The place of honor or right alongside with friends, family who have been with you? 

Late Post: Tranche 4

I believe some of us have heard of the City Harvest Church trial happened some 4 years ago. Since that day, 6 have been accused of misuse of more than S$50m of church funds.

Well i wanna share what i or we believe.

1. We believe the One who has place them over as as leaders.
2. We believe the One who has been watching us even them to handle the monies given to them.
3. We believe the One has been with us, in us through the past 25 years.

But before you make any opinion or comments or jump to conclusion, may I suggest that you check and double confirm the evidence you have, are from the reliable source. What you think and/or feel and see may not match with what's going on.

Just the way you are

In this world we live in, we have two types of people. First group of people are people who are perfectly healthy, well to do financially, having a good job and family. And the second group of people are people who have physical/mental disability, may not have a high paying job, or have a proper functioning family.

Often when we choose our friends, or looking for a life partner, we like to choose friends who are like us. We believe that if i can be attached to this girl or boy, i will be happy. Why? Because we are on the same group of people. We have the same attributes. But what if someone from the other group wanna be friends with you? Will you be friends with him/her? If he/she ask you for coffee, or wanna to know you better, are you going?

It does not matter whether you are in which group, humans deserved to be loved and respected. So here's what i want you to do: Save your critical comments, scoldings, telling offs in front of others.
None of us in this Earth are perfect. All humans make mistakes. Before you pass your judgments, look and think at yourself. Sure, we all have done few mistakes but that's not the point. The thing is we have been given the second chance. So therefore, treasure your life by encouraging the people around you.

Post Birthday

I hate to say this but i'm 25 this year. I guess the Chinese idiom is right,'' 岁月不留人.'' Over the the past 25 years, I've seen people come and go. People may forget or aware that today is your birthday. There may be no one to celebrate your birthday, no cake or celebration. But be encouraged. I have a Friend who has been with me since the day I was in my mother's womb. Even if there isnt any present, cake or celebration, You are more than enough.

As much as i have my goals, wishes, desires, life is not just about me. I came to realize that one shouldn't be self-centered. And why is that so? You are not alone and you will never walk alone.
In every stages in life, there is a group of people who are always looking out or taking care of you.

So be aware, that life is more than eating the best food, wearing the ootd, complaining about the bus/MRT etc.. Learn to take things as they come your way. Somewhere along this journey, i assure you that things and situations are bound to happen. But no matter what happened, happen or may happen, don't be anxious. 

Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving. ~ Albert Einstein

Late Blog Post

I'm really sorry guys. The month of May is really packed and busy with few things. And sometimes there are too much things going on, words, i don't really know what or how to describe it.

In couple of week' time, it's my 25th birthday!! Honestly, i don't really know what i want. But if you must know, i guess i want to know my friends in dept or at least better more.

And how will i do it? I like to talk to friends on a one to one. I'm not referring or hoping for someone but i just wanna talk.