Humility

Full Definition of Humility:  the quality or state of not thinking you are better than other people : the quality or state of being humble

Recently i had a chance to meet up with one of the workers. I was told that his work permit is being cancelled and have to depart Singapore. On the day of his departure, i met up with him and sent him to the airport. As we are on the way to Terminal 2, he was sharing with me and asked me in a humble way,'' why am i being sent back? What have i done?'' After his sharing, i was just thinking thru what he shared. 

To me, i was touched by his sharing and the way he shared. Sometimes, bad things do happened to good, hardworking, faithful in the little things people. Throughout the entire situation that he shared with me, he remain calm and continued working as scheduled. He couldn't be bothered or be emotionally attached to the happenings around him. He was focus on the work that was set before him. People always says that there are two sides to the story, well i believe  his side was the good side. Why? 1. When he was being attacked by his drunk colleague, he did not retaliate physically or verbally. 2. He reported the case to his superior, and have them handled the case rather than taking things into his hands. Even when he received the dismissal notice, he chose to ask why in a humble, lowly attitude in front of his superior. Even while he was sharing with me, he was calm and asked me to ask his superior humbly why was he dismissed.

Pride and dignity are important. But make no mistakes about it. Meekness is not weakness. Just because you have small fists and triceps, doesn't make you humble. Notice i mentioned, ''the quality or state of being humble'' Humility is in the mindset, the way we think and feel. And how is humility shown? It's by the words we speak, the way we carry ourselves, the way how we live our daily life. 

Why fight?

Two of my colleagues/workers fought on the Sunday evening, resulting in one of them hospitalized for two days and mc.  Two days later, my boss called me in to discuss regarding this matter. And after reading, hearing from different ones, i do have something to say.

The most important when someone goes through that, it's not about finding what or who is right, what is wrong. But most importantly, it's to accept. To show them that we accept them that them as they are right now. Give them the space, time to recover to do what is right.

People are bound to make mistakes, errors. Some are daily, some are weekly, but it doesn't matter how long. What matters is how are we going to make it good, or even better. Don't solve the problem, yet leaving the people outside. Things/circumstances/situations can only change only when humans, people are involved. If we choose to leave/stay out of the matter, surely it will grow/go bad. Eg: You leave an apple on the table without touching. Two hours later when you returned, the apple shows signs of decaying. When you return the next day, the apple is rotten. 

So what can we say? If you and I choose not to do anything, often the things will leave or grow bad. The things and the people around matters. Don't wait till it's too late. Remember: No point crying over spilled milk.

Harmony builds Relationship

Matt 6:26
26 Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?

Look at the pigeons. Everyday all of them need food, water, and shelter. It's part of their daily routine for survival. Without either one of them, they might perish or die. Likewise we humans. But can you see the difference between us and them? Unlike them, we need to make ends meet, put food on the table, have a roof over our head. 

But in the process of doing all these, often we pursue money more than the things that really matters. Yes, money is important for at least basic survival like food, shelter, transportation. While money is important, life is more than putting food on the table. While money can fulfill the needs of the physical realm, yet there are areas in life than money could not fulfill.

Ultimately, it is building a relationship that completes one's life. Why is that so? A rich man wouldn't donate a large amount to a unknown company unless he has a working relationship with the company. Likewise, we receive blessings from God, because we have a relationship with Him. The reason why we receive is not because we deserve it, but because He is good.

Today make it a point to forge relationship with the people around you. Not because you want to be known all around the world, but because  life would be so much better, easier to live as least with a friend whether guy or girl.

Every relationship is a two-way traffic

Previously i posted and written on, ''What are you going to do about it.'' I liken a relationship to be like two way traffic. When friends first met, usually there would be a intro, getting to know each other better. But as time goes by, surely conflicts, arguments might surface. But really, what is the rationale of all these arguments, conflicts? To me, it's about giving space and time to talk it out. Bad things won't just pack up and leave. For the good to take place, BOTH parties have to make the effort to recover from the broken relationship.

1. TIME
Take time to sit down, breath, and think about the whole thing without blaming or condemning yourself or others.

2. PLAN
''If you fail to plan, you plan to fail'' A famous quote. I know it's always easier said than done, but hey, you gotta at least think the next course of action. Think about what you can do to restore the broken relationship.

3. LET'S DO IT
Notice I said, ''LET'S DO IT.'' To clap, you need two hands. Likewise, to be the best of friends. Meet up, have coffee, catch the latest movie, have dinner, and take a stroll around the park. Often it is these little efforts or moments that makes the most. So be quick and eager to restore the broken relationship that once meant so much, and have standing in your life.

It's not going to be easy, but life would be so much better, easier to live as least with a friend whether guy or girl.

What are we going to do about it?

Few months ago, i  was invited to a chat group. And since then, i made few new friends. Since that day i was in the chat group, we had various outings, dinners, drinking session together. All seems going very well. The friendship was building gradually. Just when everything is sailing smoothly, something was amiss. Somehow, the chat group turn cold. The conversations we talk about, the topics we often discuss, it just stopped there.
Few days ago, i had the opportunity to have dinner and spent some time talking, speaking to him.

Both of us, or perhaps everyone in the chat group, are aware and know that the chat group is turning cold and dull.  What are we going to do about it? Can i say that just by keeping quiet, it won't do anything to solve the problems. Let me give you an example: Lazarus was dead for four days, and Jesus came on the fourth day and resurrected him. Likewise, praying is good, but the friendship is not be back on track.

I know we all have our own share of problems, stress, be it at work, family, and perhaps between friends. Can i say if you are not gonna make it right, one day, the friendship might end. If you got a problem, talk it out. Talk to someone comfortable. We are invited to this chat group for a reason. Likewise, we all have our needs, wants, desires. But as we are in this chat group, can we leave ourselves to God, let Him give us.

Therefore it's not about ''me, myself or I'' anymore. In this friendship we have for each other, ask yourself want can you do to maintain this friendship. What are we doing to make this friendship the best?

Healing starts from nowhere but from within

Matthew 9:20-22 The Message (MSG)

20-22 Just then a woman who had hemorrhaged for twelve years slipped in from behind and lightly touched his robe. She was thinking to herself, “If I can just put a finger on his robe, I’ll get well.” Jesus turned—caught her at it. Then he reassured her: “Courage, daughter. You took a risk of faith, and now you’re well.” The woman was well from then on.

Today i am writing this post to all the sick be it physically or emotionally. Why would i say, ''Healing starts from nowhere but from within.'' Can i say that it's not just the medication/physiotherapy/chemotherapy that improves your sickness. I thank God for the advanced medical science, the doctors, and scientists who have been doing, consulting, prescribing the medicines to those who needs it. But there's one more factor that really causes one to recover. It's the faith in the heart while he/she is unwell.

Earlier this year i posted here that i was on MC for 5 days, due to a ankle sprained. Yes, i was injured, having much difficulties to walk. But all the problems i encountered was physically. I am well aware that if i miss another step, the fall would cause further pain and injury. And so i started walking slowly, carefully taking all the safest way to begin my recovery.

I know and am aware of friends who are unwell. Today let me encourage you that don't let anything on the outside, the physical to distance your process/journey to the best health you could ever have.

Please don't get me wrong. I am not asking to drink beer, take on drugs etc.
While you're on your way to recovery, please be kind to yourself and apply the right method that will draw you closer to being recovered.

Lastly ,i wish all who are unwell, to be recovered..

The Lost coin: Complete vs Full

Complete- having all parts or elements; lacking nothing; whole; entire; finished; ended; concluded:
having all the required or customary characteristics, skills, or the like; consummate; perfect in kin or quality; thorough; entire; total; undivided, uncompromised, or unmodified;  having all modifying or complementary elements included

Full

completely filled; containing all that can be held; filled to utmost capacity

2.

complete; entire; maximum

3.

of the maximum size, amount, extent, volume, etc.

4.

(of garments, drapery, etc.) wide, ample, or having ample folds.

5.

abundant; well-supplied: 

Then Jesus told them this parable: 4 “Suppose one of you has a hundred sheep and loses one of them. Doesn't he leave the ninety-nine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it? 5 And when he finds it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders 6 and goes home. Then he calls his friends and neighbors together and says, ‘Rejoice with me; I have found my lost sheep.’ 

Or suppose a woman has ten silver coins[a] and loses one. Doesn't she light a lamp, sweep the house and search carefully until she finds it? 9 And when she finds it, she calls her friends and neighbors together and says, ‘Rejoice with me; I have found my lost coin.’

In these two parables, we see the difference between Complete and Full.

Being full doesn't means you're complete. I am sure you know what i mean by this sentence, and likewise you also know you're full of events, meetings, so much that you don't even haven time for the things that matters. Example the man who loses the one sheep. He's having 99 sheeps already, and yet he left them to get the one back. Look at the woman who is already rich with 10 silver coins, and yet still go and search for the one.

Honestly ask yourself this: Am i doing all this for myself or for people? Examine this: After all is said and done, am i happy?

The truth is this: Happiness starts from within. Though happiness is not always physical, yet it's visible. So whatever you do, pursue happiness.