Forgiveness: Why Forgive?

Yet another powerful message from Kong Hee.

What is forgiveness?

To forgive means 3 things.

1. To leave the hurt, bitterness, resentment, anger and all unpleasant feelings, thoughts behind.
I do not say that you take as if nothing happened. But whatever is happening right now, you make a decision to move on.

2. To move from prison to release.
Unforgiveness is like a prison. You will never move on if you are still unable to forgive the person/circumstances. Remember, that there is One who forgave you some 2000 years ago.

3. To let love fill your heart.
Fill your heart and mind positive things.


It always seems impossible until it's done. ~ Nelson Mandela

I'm sorry but thank You

To the One and Only, 

I am sorry for the not celebrating the kind of birthday you have wanted. I am sorry for the below standard cake that we used to celebrate your special day. I am sorry for disappointing, not respecting, and not seeing you as a special and precious one in my life.

Lastly, i just wanna say thank You for giving us another chance to get this relationship going again. I may not be the perfect guy, but i will prove that you have made the right decision to be my girlfriend. Together, we can and will make this relationship the best one you can ever ask for.

J & F First Month Report

Hi all.

as some/many have heard from me, that as of 9th Feb 2015, i am no longer single. Well today post is to update some of the highlights.

1. 14th Feb 2015, we celebrated our first Valentine's Day.
I brought her to Pastamania @ Funan IT Mall. That was where i first met her. Guess what? Though it was not a posh restaurant, yet we kind of enjoyed the simple lunch. We were also sitting at the same table and chair that we first had dinner together! After lunch, we went to Raffles City, and then went to Suntec City to meet a few of our friends. Well, a handful of them already knew the good news and we were kinda surprised to see them as they came forward to send their best wishes and congrats to us! Technologies really work!

2. 3rd March 2015, we celebrated her birthday.
Well, i admit the celebration was certainly way below average! I didn't prepare for this special day.
So what did i do? I just bought her a simple cake and sang a birthday song to her.
Jenny, i am sorry. I wish i could have time to buy a better cake and get you the dress you have told me as you like it.

3. 15th March 2015, 3-days Cold Wars.
I was really sick on that day. She called me at around 10.15pm but i didn't hear it. But when i called her later, she hadn't picked up. So things was not good till 18th March 2015. Finally she called but with much disappointment, frustration and anger. To the extent that she mentioned ''breakup.'' I was really fearful that that would be the end. But i pleaded for another chance. Later part of the day, we went to meet Calvin her CGL. It was there, where we got back the relationship on track.

A new beginning

As of 9th February 2015, i am no longer single!! And some of you may have know who is the lucky one, but for the benefit of the rest, today i wanna introduce Jenny to you.

I came to know Jenny since Dec 2013. Jefri was the one who invited me into this chat group who is really more happening than any other chat group. So when did it started? I started to have feelings for her since the first time i walked her home. Looking back at the past year, we understood each other better. It was last Friday that we kind of confirmed that we have mutual feelings for each other. And yes, it was very mind blowing when we shared with each other.

We went to meet her CGL, Pastor Yilun on Saturday after service. She prayed and blessed this relationship. We went to have dinner with my CG and she also joined us @  Legoland. Technically, that was our first overseas outing. Oh yeah!! While on the way home, she asked me two questions which really set me thinking.

So i decided to pop the important question on Monday night after our guitar lesson. I felt that question was the answer she was looking for. That's why she could readily say yes.

So here's the thing: Relationship is meant to be serious and set things right.

Principle 原则

Principle

Definitions of principle: a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behavior or for a chain of reasoning, a fundamental source or basis of something.

原则

	意向	intention, intent, character, disposition, function, principle

Context: No matter whom you are or whether you know it or not, words carry weight. When your friend is hospitalized, you mentioned you will arrange to visit but end up did not turn up even after your friend has discharged. There was another who did not mentioned of visiting, yet he came and visit.

So what am I trying to say? I know you may be busy with things, so I wouldn't ask you to visit. Rather than telling me you will visit, I rather you speak words of encouragement etc. Don't say you be arranging and yet none came.

In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.

Let me get this right

Yet another opportunity to have a great conversation with a old friend who was telling some issues he was facing for about 4 years. I think i can identify with him as i kind of went through what he experienced. So you might be wondering,'' what's going on?'' Well i am glad you ask. Haha

For the past 4 fours, he has been working really late. I mean like working Monday to Friday from 9am to 9pm or even 10pm. That's not the problem. Inasmuch you have your life to live, so does my friend. As far as i know, the company did not employ you to tai-chi. Let me get this right, my friend here is not a slave to anyone, not even this company. I speaking to what you have been doing. Pls get this right, that my friend who is also your colleague is and has been helping you for the past 4 years that he is knocking off at 9/10pm. Pls get this right: His working hours is from 9am to 6pm. As far as i know, he is definitely not shirking responsibility or whatsoever. Likewise he doesn't work for you. He work for the Company which employed him. So get this straight and right.

Let me get this straight

I have been thinking about two sentences spoken regarding me some weeks back. Some weeks back, i made a mistakes and caused a little inconvenience to my ex-manager. Later that week, his colleague who is also from CHC came to know of it and together they said some nasty and sarcastic remarks. 

Here's my reply to them: So you think you're smart because of your achievement in your studies? You think you have authority/power because you're a manager? Good luck. But before you make any opinion or comments or jump to conclusion, may I suggest that check and double confirm the evidence you have are from the reliable source. What you think, feel and see may not match with what's going on.

For as long as you're breathing, all of us are sure to make mistakes, whether you know it or not. Complaining/grumbling/scolding vulgarities won't solve the problem. Stop complaining.