Valentine's Day vs Independent

So yesterday was Valentine's day. Some of us may be singles, others have a date and some of us are attached/married. Today i to talk a little about being single and looking for a partner.

It's common for the singles, both guys and ladies to go for social event meant for the singles. And while we go to such event, we go there with certain expectations. The guy must be rich, handsome and young etc.. The ladies have good figure, long hair etc. While we have the ''ideal/perfect'' partner in mind, does he/she ever exists?

I'm sorry but No! Be it, in the past, present or future there will never be a perfect couple don't even say the perfect relationship. I speak from experience. I used to write down the criteria of my ideal partner. But guess what, she never exists. Now that i know she doesn't exists, am i still hanging on to my fantasy? No!

Rather, i trust Him to provide and bring the girl when the time is right. So what do i do in the meantime? I go and enrich and equip myself. I do not desperately go and ask around if there is any ladies that is willing to go out with me.

Here's the truth, tested and proven: Trust Him in all your ways. Commit your plans to Him. Jenny is the perfect example. She came from Him.

Our 1st anniversary

To her, i want to say:

There will never be another one like you. When i thought i will surely be single all my life, God allowed me to meet you. And though there was disagreements, silly arguments, i thank God we're still here and together. None of us are perfect. But it is through our imperfectness, that we know each other better. And for that, i am grateful. Surely there are many good and pretty girls out there, i thank God for knowing Jenny. I guess there wouldn't be another one like you. This journey hasn't been easy but nonetheless, we're still here and will surely be.

Never Lose Heart

So 2015 is over and 2016 has just begun.

I'm not sure about you but 2015 has been a series of good and bad. And as the new year has began, as always, we have this practice of setting goals. It's something we do almost every beginning of the year. But while we're busy setting goals for this year, let us think: What if we failed to see the goals achieved? What is our respond when things didn't go as what we planned?

Friends, no matter what has happened in 2015, or what may be installed for 2016, never lose heart. Perhaps 2015 may not be a good or the best year for you, do not lose heart. I've been thinking and to a certain degree i do agree,'' things will always get better.'' That phase has been in my head for the last few weeks.

2016. Some of us may have great plans for 2016. We set goals to do this and that. We want to travel, get attached etc.. But while we're excited to see the plans come true, never lose your heart over these.



''Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that's where life starts.''

Dear Mockers

I just wanna make sure that i'm not not against anyone but rather concerned about what was spoken concerning me.

Dear Mockers or whatever you are. Do not think that being the eldest among the cousins gives you the right to make sarcastic comments.  Since you're eldest among us, shouldn't you be more mature in the words you speak? Moreover, you're also a mother of two. What will your boys think if they are aware of this?

Sure you can say whatever you like, but be reminded, that words are like labels. They stick on people. If you don't like to receive the same treatment, den be considerate and careful with your words.

Our 6th month

It's been quiet here, isn't it? Well guess, what? Our 6th month also happen to be our country's Golden Jubilee weekend. Yeah!! So together with some of our friends, we celebrated! But that's not the thing.

Few weeks before we approached our 6th month, one of our friend sent her a sacastic comment which read, ''Foster is your everything............''

Let's get this straight: I am, will not and can't be her everything.

Defination of everything seems very vague.

Just because you don't have dinner with her, can't meet her, then i am her everything.

Just so you know, i am not the air she breathe, her employer who pays her salary etc.

Please be tactful with your words. Your words do carry weight. Words are like labels.

Whether you know it or not, comments, opinions, remarks sticks.

100 reasons why i chose you

Today, we've been together for 100 days. And honestly, there was sunshine and storm, calm and waves. But those things that we have went through have only strengthen and deepen this relationship. What matters most is You. Today i wanna share the 100 reasons why i chose you:

1. Your loyalty to this relationship.
2. Your compassion for everyone around you.
3. Your selflessness.
4. Your integrity.
5. Your strength.
6. Your devotion.
7. How you are always 100% honest no matter what.
8. Your kindness.
9. The way you always try to help others.
10. How you always stand up for what you believe in.
11. Your generosity.
12. Your confidence.
13. The way that you always look for and find the positive in everything.
14. Your optimism.
15. The fact that you know exactly where you are going in life and will do whatever it takes to get there.
16. Your courage even in the face of adversity.
17. Your boldness.
18. Your gentleness with me.
19. How you are always understanding with me even when I don’t deserve it.
20. How much you and I share in common together about everything.
21. How you always can make me laugh or smile even at times when I don’t want to.
22. The perfume you put that attracts me.
23. The fact that you refuse to ever completely grow up.
24. Your crazy voices, sounds, and imitations.
25. How you are always kind to animals.
26. The fact that you aren’t afraid to cry.
27. How you always help me when I need or ask you to and sometimes even when I don’t ask.
28. How you are always concerned about me and my well-being.
29. The way you hold my hands and arms.
30. The way you tidy up a room just by being in it.
31. How much you’ve taught me about life and myself.
32. Your intelligence.
33. The fact that you are good at fixing things or putting things together by hand.
34. Your zest for life.
35. Your unique style.
36. The way you talk, speak and communicate with people.
37. Your amazing voice.
38. Your awesome hair.
39. Your craziness.
40. Your incredible baby brown eyes.
41. Your strong hands.
42. Your love of life.
43. Your faith in God.
44. You make my heart race whenever i see you, talk to you.
45. The way you walk.
46. The way you talk
47. Your wackiness
48. The fact that there is nobody else in the world like you and nobody will ever come close.
49. Your vast knowledge about almost everything.
50. How you are always good at almost everything.
51. The annoying fact that you are right 90+% of the time.
52. The amazing new experiences that I’ve shared for the first time with you and only you.
53. The way you make me feel about myself.
54. How you always tell me and show me everyday how much you love me.
55. How you don’t mind holding my hand or showing me affection even in public.
56. How you sometimes give up things you’ve wanted just for my benefit.
57. The way you kiss me and touch me.
58. The fact that you were willing to take a chance on me.
59. The way you always encourage and believe in me.
60. Your faithfulness.
61. Your sense of humour.
62. The fact that you know how to make me be a real and better man.
63. The sweet food and gifts you’ve made and given to me.
64. The heart-touching things you’ve written for me.
65. The way you’ve opened up your heart and life to me.
66. The fact that I learn new amazing things about you almost everyday.
67. The way you look at me that makes me melt inside.
68. The love you’ve always shown me.
69. The way you always say awesome things about me to other people.
70. How much excitement you bring into my life almost everyday.
71. How you always bring out the best in me.
72. How you never take life for granted.
73. The way you always inspire, encourage me.
74. The fact that you are as much of a dreamer as me.
75. The fact that you are without a doubt my true soul mate.
76. The way that you know how to not take life too seriously and live to the fullest.
77. The fact that you are the first and only person I’ve ever loved and the first person who ever truly loved me.
78. How forgiving you are.
79. How you’re not afraid to be a risk-taker.
80. Your incredible big heart.
81. How you always know what to say and how to say things in any given situations.
82. How we hanged out together, discovering new places.
83. How you let me scare you when you least expect it.
84. The fact that I know you will be one of the most successful girl in the world someday because no one deserves it more than you.
85. The amazing way you always seem to be able to read my mind.
86. How we always still say or do the exact same thing at the same time.
87. Your extreme patience with me even when I push it to the limit sometimes.
88. Your beauty.
89. How you always lie on my shoulder in the bus/train and sometimes in cab.
90. How you always comfort me or give me a shoulder to cry on when I need it.
91. How I know you’ll always be here for me through good times and bad no matter what happens
92. The extraordinary amazing things that always happen to us that never happen to anyone else
93. The fact that I know you are my real true soul mate and we were destined to be together.
94. How respectful you are towards people.
95. How cute and adorable you can be. Especially your funny face!
96. Your determination and conviction and how once you set your mind on something that nobody can change it
97. Your incredible dreams and visions for our future that will come true.
98. How much you know about me now and that you’ve seen both my good, bad and ugly that you still love me anyway
99. All the sacrifices you make for me
100. Every little single detail about you that makes you who you are and the fact that you are the best woman in the world.

What does it takes?

Most humans are like me. We have dreams, things we always wanted to do, see and explore etc. Some of us want to be rich, wealthy, living in a big house, have a great number of friends etc. Yes it is said that dreams make humans great. But to have these require you to work hard for it.

Example:
1. Thomas Edison created the first light bulb. It was said that he tried more than 300 times to see the first light in a bulb.

2. Steve Jobs started Apple Inc, which is currently the No.1 multinational technology company. He did not finished his high school and was a drop out. But that didn't stop him from pursueing his dream.

3. Roger Bannister, who ran the first sub-four-minute mile. 

These guys and many more did what the world said it was impossible. 

Recently, i came to know someone who started saving up as he is struggling in his finances. So he started making plans, setting budgets on his daily meals. But as time goes by, he couldn't keep to his budget as he was attracted to other tibits, snacks before/after lunch.

For us to be successful,  we need the following:

1. Discipline
Keep to your budget. Only you can limit how you want to spent.

2. Consistancy
Be consistant to the amount you have budgetted.

3. Focus
Know your goals and dreams.

Temptations will always be there to tempt you, make your heart soft. But your will is stronger that all these!